How do I ask someone what pronouns they use?

Try asking: “What pronouns do you use” or “Can you remind me what pronouns you use?” It can feel awkward at first, but it is not half as awkward as getting it wrong or making a hurtful assumption.

If you are asking as part of an introduction exercise and you want to quickly explain what a pronoun is, you can try something like this:

Tell us your name, where you come from, and your pronouns. That means the pronoun you use in reference to yourself. For example, I’m Scotty, I’m from Martin City, and I use he, him, and his pronouns.